People who struggle with self-destructive habits tend to feel emotions more strongly than others. Because of this susceptibility, they engage in activities and behaviors that numb them emotionally – but their addiction to these habits can make them feel hopeless and out of control.

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Emotions are probably even harder to define than personality

It is commonly accepted that they embody a subjective experience which is affective (emotional). These subjective experiences also have underlying physiological, cognitive, and environmental factors. Our understanding of how we feel is, in part, socially defined, because every emotional state, such as love, fear, anger, grief, etc. is generally defined by consensus.

However, everyone has their own emotional world. There are of course big differences since some are aware of their emotions, feel them, experience them and express them and others are unable to welcome them, and / or to express their emotions and feelings.

Emotions are a response to the stimuli that cause them. These stimuli can be external or take the form of memories or images. The trigger may seem obvious yet emotional responses are triggered automatically with little awareness.

Emotions are experienced in several ways: affectively, which refers to the aspect felt rather than thought. Physiologically, in the body’s response such as sweating, tremors, dry mouth, increased heart rate. Cognitively, through the reaction of feelings to personal beliefs and value systems, past experiences and prior knowledge. Behaviorally, through outward expression such as laughter or aggression.

Most of the people who come to the sessions do so because they are experiencing difficulties or disturbances in their emotions.

Most people who come to sessions do so because they experience difficulties or disturbances in their emotions, the intensity of which is also important. The stronger the emotion, the stronger its influence on motivation. Too much or too little emotional intensity can cause problems. Emotions are also linked to survival and to our mental health. It is important that we pay attention to this. They tell us what is going on within us in terms of our core values ​​and needs. People who ignore their emotions can therefore ignore important aspects of themselves, which can lead to dissatisfaction, feelings of oppression and alienation.

Suppression of emotions harms mental and physical health

Chronic states of high emotional arousal that go unresolved can lead to physiological damage. The repression of memories that elicit strong emotions can have a “boomerang effect”: the repressed emotions enter consciousness with even greater force.

Since mind, body, and behavior are all active ingredients of emotions, sometimes asking questions such as “How do you feel ?” will not allow the person to speak. The different components of emotions should not be confused with the emotions themselves. What matters is how they relate to each other, how they are so singularly named and relate to subjective experience.

French abroad for 25 years, Frederique Stref offers 50-minute one-on-one sessions to New Zealand expats each afternoon. coherent to help you make the best of your expatriation Write to now with “Frederique Stref” in the subject line for more information or contact her directly by clicking on this link.