“Every child experiences difficulties in his psychic development. The question that arises, the problem to be solved, is to recognize the signs of suffering which can take shape, become fixed and lead to major difficulties in the future ”, explains Dr François Bridier, child and psychiatrist. the teenager.

The signs are potentially numerous. Psychologist in the Nantes region, Valérie P. cites “sleep disorders, in particular suddenly complicated falling asleep, nocturnal awakenings… The occurrence of disproportionate anger should also alert, just like the appearance of tics or obsessive-compulsive disorders ( TOC). ”

She refers in particular to “the ritual of falling asleep which lies down with a blanket which must be in a very precise position. Or phrases to be repeated a number of times, etc. “

Ask open-ended questions

For parents, “the challenge is first to reassure him and then to try to understand what is wrong”.

With friends, at school, at home? How to do it ? The psychologist recommends “to ask open questions rather than closed”.

In other words, questions which do not induce an answer.

In practice, it is therefore preferable to ask him: “Is something going on at school?” “, Rather than:” Is it the school or this person that scares you? “.

And if the signs of this anxiety do not pass, ask your doctor for advice or consult a professional trained in the psychological care of the child: psychologist or psychiatrist.