If the classic field of psychology invites us to work on stress, anxieties or suffering, the so-called ‘positive’ approach suggests focusing on our strengths. Or on those of our relatives. It was also in response to the increase in cases of depression and anxiety that she was born.
“What good are positive emotions? (What’s good about positive emotions?) Published by Barbara Fredrickson in 1998 in the Review of General Psychology is considered the founding article of this movement. Then, as explained by Lucie Mandeville, professor in the Department of Psychology at the University of Sherbrooke (Canada), “positive psychology was born during the passage of Martin Seligman at the head of the American Psychological Association, in 1998”.
What does it consist of?
This discipline has, according to Seligman, “the objective of promoting ‘the best’ in humans in order to enrich the mission of psychology which has been too limited, for nearly 100 years, to the repair of disorders”.
Overall, positive psychology therefore aims to rely on the positive elements of an individual’s life in order to prevent the occurrence of disorders such as depression.
If positive psychology applies to everyone, it will be all the more effective if it is practiced from childhood. Thus, the fact of valuing a child and insisting on his qualities will boost the confidence he will have in him.
“Put into practice from an early age, these principles increase the chances of reducing stress, optimize potential, develop children’s strength of character and prevent depression”, confirms Julie Bazinet, in her book ‘Educating children with positive psychology ‘.
Let’s stop comparing ourselves to each other …
Doctor in psychology and professor at Anglia Ruskin University in the United Kingdom, Prof. Ilona Boniwell explains that young people boosted by positive psychology will be more creative and enterprising than others. More sociable too.
To make them optimists, teach them, for example, not to compare themselves to others! “It’s simple, if you want to be miserable, find someone better than you, and compare yourself,” she quipped. “But whatever you accomplish, you will always find better …” Conclusions: you will be systematically dissatisfied …
So, on a daily basis, do not cut corners on compliments when your child has made efforts towards a particular goal.
Do not hesitate to ask him to develop an idea or to ask his opinion. He will be very proud of it. Also develop common activities such as reading or sport. And don’t forget to be optimistic yourself.